Here are seven summer tips for singles. See which ones you can apply to make this your best summer ever!
Selfishness – Really, I get to be selfish? Well, that depends on what you mean by selfish. If you mean always putting yourself first with complete disregard for others, then no. What I do mean is basic self-care, which means taking care of yourself. You only get one of those machines called a human body, you know. Treat it like it has to last a lifetime.
Selflessness – I bought my sons their first dog a few months ago. I’ve never seen a more selfless animal in my life. Buddy is so into the boys when they are with me and keeps looking for them when they are with their mom. Whenever I leave the room, Buddy follows me and waits for me in that room. Where in your life is your focus so completely on others and your service to them that you forget about your own troubles?
Solitude – There are two words for the state of being alone. One is solitude, which can be a really good thing. The other word is lonely which is not a good thing. I’ve noticed in my 49 years on the planet that there seems to be no lack of people around, especially now that I live in the Atlanta area. Makes me wonder sometimes if in the final analysis that being lonely is a choice at some level. Unless of course you are stranded on a remote island like Tom Hanks in the movie “Castaway.” But even he created Wilson to keep him company.
Success – If you do not define success on your own terms, the culture will define it for you. Our culture would have you believe that if you are single and not in a relationship, you are somehow unsuccessful. Strive for intimacy with a special someone if that is what you want, just make sure it is defined as success on your own terms.
Someday – Pull out your calendar and do a little experiment with me. My calendar has Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, and then begins again with Sunday. What about yours? As hard as I look, I can never ever find a Someday. Yet we live our lives as if we really believe there is a Someday out there. Turn your Someday into Today and do something you have always wanted to do.
Someone – We are designed as social creatures. It’s how we are built. So it is therefore only natural to look for that special someone. Keep looking, even if you have to interview many, many people for the position. Keep looking, and don’t settle. There is someone out there for you, and always remember that it only takes one.
So now what – The best quote I have heard all summer came from Jack Canfield, co-author of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series and author of “The Success Principles.” In an interview with Alex Mandossian, Jack Canfield said, I believe only partly tongue-in-cheek, “Here is one way to look at what you will do with your life – Congratulations, you won the sperm race. Now what?” In other words, now that you are here, now that you have the privilege of life, what are you going to do with it? Whatever difference you were born to make, why not get started this summer? Why not get started today?
Until the next time. Keep bloggin…Scotts Link!