How To Save A Marriage From Divorce And Rekindle The Love

Many couples are desperate and in need of help and information on how to save a marriage from divorce and get back that “lovin’ feeling” that brought them together in the first place. Too many marriages today have either ended in divorce, are in the process of divorce, or unknowingly headed for divorce. It’s a brutal statistic but 50% of marriages today will be destroyed through a divorce, and that is a conservative estimate!  111359

The great news in all this is that divorce does not need to be the ultimate outcome of your relationship woes. There is so much you can do, right now, to stop the negative momentum in your relationship that is quickly pushing your marriage towards the divorce statistics.

If you are interested and open to learning how to save a marriage from divorce I think you will find this article helpful, and I truly hope that you will take what I share and apply it immediately to your relationship. Time is of the essence when your marriage is on the line. Truth is if you are at this stage and worried about divorce you have already put things off too long. So I challenge and encourage you to read this and then start applying what you learn this very night!

Before you can save your marriage you need to isolate the problems that are threatening it. You can’t fight an enemy you can’t see. If your marriage is in trouble there are a few, tell-tale, signs that you need to be aware of and then confront. They include:

1. A lack of desire to be together – This is a huge red flag and needs to be dealt with yesterday! If you and your partner find it painful to “hang-out” and find that you would rather do “whatever” either on your own or with a friend, then very likely there is a serious problem with your relationship. While it is true that everyone is busy, if your daily activities, work commitments, time spent with children and friends so dominate your schedule that there is no time left for your spouse, there is serious trouble brewing and this issue needs to be addressed. If spending time together is not a top priority, then you need to stop everything and re-prioritize your life. How to save a marriage from divorce and fall back in love has to include quality time spent together with your spouse!

2. A feeling of resentment – If there is an underlying sense of resentment, (towards your spouse or vice-versa), or perhaps it is even outright, in your face resentment, then you need to be alarmed! This is not a healthy aspect for any marriage and will eat away at your relationship like rust on steroids! If resentment is causing you to feel that you don’t even like your spouse anymore, then your marriage is in a major crisis and you need to take immediate action.

3. A lack or void of intimacy – If you and your spouse have not been intimate for a long time, and it doesn’t seem to bother you, then this is another red flag that should cause you to be concerned. If you are really interested in how to save a marriage from divorce and fall back in love, than you have to take a serious look at the intimacy factor in your relationship. While a lack of sex does not mean a marriage is on the rocks, a total lack of intimacy is a good indicator that this is the case. Intimacy is more complex than just sex and includes enjoyment and fulfillment from tender moments spent together, through hugging, kissing, snuggling and just being together physically.

4. An inability to communicate – Another indicator that your marriage is in trouble and may be headed for divorce is when you and your spouse don’t talk or “discuss” things normally anymore; you merely argue and disagree about everything. If conversation has become a chore and it seems easier to just not talk than have to deal with the emotional stress and anxiety you feel after verbal interaction, then now is the time to sit up, take notice and make some serious changes. Open, healthy communication is an absolute essential part of a strong, fulfilling marriage. You will not discover how to save your marriage from divorce until you first discover how to communicate properly and lovingly.

How To Save A Marriage From Divorce Requires A Game Plan:

OK, now that we have identified some definite red flags and you realize that your relationship troubles may be more serious than you thought, we need to look at positive measures to take now to bring healing and restoration. The following suggestions will answer, in part, the nagging question of, “How to save a marriage from divorce and fall back in love again”:

* The first step to bringing healing into your marriage is to open up the lines of communication. You need to take the time to talk. This won’t happen on its own, you must make the time. This needs to be a two-way dialogue where you and your spouse open up to one another and share your concerns. Be honest and address the problems, openly sharing your ideas and thoughts. You and your spouse deserve to know how each other are feeling. Then, together, establish helpful and reasonable solutions.

* Be sure to stay calm and never raise your voice during this time of reconnecting and communicating. Go out of your way to be polite and respectful in your communication skills. The tone of voice and body language can speak volumes, so be aware of both. At all costs, avoid accusations and finger-pointing. If your spouse feels threatened it will be “game-over”. After you have shared your concerns listen carefully, and intently, to your partner’s response and then be proactive in working with her/him in coming up with restorative resolutions of how to save a marriage from divorce.

* If you have success in communicating then continue spending time together working things out. No matter how busy “life” gets couples that want to stay together must find the time to shut out the rest of the world and be alone. You will each, most likely, have to reduce your obligations, but it will be so worth it. Learning how to save a marriage from divorce will involve retraining yourselves and rethinking your priorities.

* Plan a date night! It seems so cliche but it is effective. Even if it only happens once or twice a month, you will find this, alone time, to be extraordinarily advantageous to restoring your relationship. It will enable you to reconnect with one another, helping you to identify and appreciate each other all over again and give you a sense of just how valuable your marriage really is. Do not underestimate the value of this step in your plan of how to save a marriage from divorce.adoreebook

The key of how to save a marriage from divorce and fall back in love, is to first and foremost recognize that there is a serious problem and then become immediately proactive in addressing the issues and working together to find, and implement, solutions that will bring reconciliation and healing to the relationship. There is no better time than the present to begin, and time is of the essence…

All the best!

Marriage Relationship Advice

I have a few marriage relationship advice tips for you. It seems that when we first fall in love with someone it feels like the love will last forever, and we get married with the idea that love and the chemistry will keep us together noDesireme matter what.  It’s funny how, as we grow older our relationships change but we don’t want to change with our relationships. We start to take things for granted and we stop caring.  Once we stop caring, the relationship starts to fade and then the party’s over.  We have to start to think long-term instead of day by day.  When you find your partner, you have to know in your heart and say to yourself that this one is going to be the last one for the rest of your life.  Treat that relationship with the respect that its going to be around long term and it will last.
Today when about half of all marriages end in divorce, it’s clear that just the love and chemistry alone does not work. So it pays to know more before we get married. But if you’re already married, then what? Well here’s some marriage relationship advice that can help before marriage or after that will keep couples together.

My first marriage relationship advice tip would be –

As time passes in a relationship or marriage couples tend to fall into a routine. Doing the same things, going to the same places. Ask your partner out on a date. Do something new and special together. Try going to the zoo, beach, aquarium or a carnival.

On a date you can get dressed up and look your  best, you’ll have more time alone to communicate and be drawn closer together. A date can help bring a dull or stale relationship out of a rut and bring some life back into it.

Another marriage relationship advice tip would be to ask some things about your partner. Do they want kids? Do they want a career? Do they go to church? And much more. You would be surprised how many couples fail to ask about the most simple of topics before they get married. Then after marriage, they still don’t ask the most important questions.

One of the biggest factors in most couples getting a divorce is they fail to ask one another the right questions. If you fail to sit down with your partner and ask them about your future, sex, religion, finances, and many others you’re going to wind up in nothing but argument after argument.

So my marriage relationship advice is to really get to know each other really well. And never let a day pass without a compliment or praise for your partner. Tell them how wonderful they are. Love and romance them and they will return the favor. It is much easier to love if you are loved.
Constantly support your spouse. Cheer for them, don’t boo them or give them the silent treatment.

In the end as a couple you both need to make it your number 1 priority to get to know each other inside and out before you end in a broken relationship.  And that all I have to say about that.  Be true to yourself.  Happiness is waiting for you.

 

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Sister, Do You Need A Gratitude Adjustment?

I told my girlfriend she needs a gratitude adjustment.  First let’s define:

Gratitude – when one shows appreciation…..

I was at my friends’ home the other day and we had a real in-debt conversation.  Her name is Jackie by the way.  Jackie is married to Frank and they’ve been married for 5 years now.  Last Saturday was their anniversary and she had a little get together for a few friends.  And of course, I love a party so there I was ready to enjoy.  Frank is really good to Jackie he puts up with a lot of her sh….t.if you know what I mean.  Anyway, I had hinted to him what she wanted for her anniversary present and he was right on Q with it.  He bought her an Ascot diamond which was way over $8,000 bucks.  It was beautiful.  A diamond to die for.  Anyway, he gives it to her before dinner, she opens it and what comes out of her mouth, “oh Frank, it’s cute but I was sure you had gotten me the vintage cut” a diamond that was at least $15,000.  Can you believe it?  I almost died and I could see the hurt in his eyes as she embarrassed him in frount of all our friends.  How could she do that?  Frank was a loving kind man.  Any woman even some of her scanty friends would love to have him.  He played it off and said no problem, I’ll return it for another one, and she said, thank you sweetie!!  If it was me, I would have said bitch, you’d better get to stepping, but that’s the way it goes.  Some women don’t appreciate what they have and they don’t know the meaning of gratitude.

There was a study done at Florida State University that showed that acknowledging your partner’s little acts of generosity has a major payoff:  “Expressing gratitude transforms your impression of the other person,” says researcher Nathaniel Lambert, Ph.D. “It helps people hold each other in higher regard, making them more comfortable when they have to work through bigger relationship issues.”

So here’s a few acts that we don’t want to ignore and I want to show you how he or she is going above and beyond.

Flowers! And it’s not even your birthday. 

What he’s telling you:  Assuming he’s not trying to get out of the doghouse, a just-because bouquet from your mate is a sign that he or she is committed.  “When your partner goes out of their way to surprise you with a gift, they’re sending a message that they’ve invested in your happiness.”

Be Grateful:  Your inclination may be to return the favor, but don’t do it.  “Responding to a gift with a gift of your own can backfire.  It will make the other half feel indebted to you, and people, especially men, dislike feeling indebted. “Plus, you may come off as up- eddy.  Just place the flowers in a prominent place where they can be seen.  Tell them how surprised you were to get them and thank him today and again tomorrow.  Frequency in expressing gratitude is more important than intensity.

Another Act:  He treats you to dinner after you’ve had a tough day at work.

What he’s telling you:  Job stress can cause significant rifts in a relationship and even lead to divorce.  Eventually, it’s bound to spill over into your relationship.  “Treating you to dinner is their attempt to show you that they’re your teammate in getting you through this tough time.”

Be Grateful:  Don’t waste your romantic meal griping about your boss’s evil behavior.  Get away from the negativity by asking your mate their opinion and how they would have handled the situation.  Once you’ve let them express their two cents, move on so you can decompress as a duo and enjoy the rest of your night.   There’s just one more question I want to ask you before we go:

Are you grateful for your mate or do you take love for granted?  Your comments are welcome. We would love to hear from you.  Until the next time.  Keep on Blogging.

 

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