Love for One or Love for All?

3DMainBookWell, I guess that really is the question right? We’ve all seen movies like The Notebook or my all time favorite Titanic — even though it had a very sad ending nonetheless it’s a love story. Love is powerful so powerful that it really does affect your emotions from being really happy one moment to sad the next. It seems like each year the love I have for my husband gets stronger by the year, by the day, or better yet by the hour. See that’s the thing I personally love for one and then I love for all so there are no sides.

Let me explain. I have been in love since I was a teenage girl with my husband for a very long time. I have loved all my life. There’s a slight difference of course. I remember listening to those old soft jams late at night that made my heart melt. I’m what they call the hopeless romantic. I believe one can be happy if he/she is in love. I’m not saying that you can’t fall in love over and over again, I actually hear you can but there’s always that one special guy/girl that takes your breath away. Now the downfall is, just as much as you love them you could hate them just the same.

That’s where the power of love comes in many shapes of emotions. You know how one day you’re in a really good mood but then one little thing could turn your smile into a frown? Love works just the same. Think about that night you got so angry at your spouse, or boyfriend, girlfriend, etc and you said the most meanest thing ever. Whoa now, how could you say you love that person so much but yet you hit it, right where it hurts. Well, there it goes again the shapes of emotions. Some days you will feel head over heals and other days you’d actually feel sad or distant but that doesn’t mean that you’re not in love anymore.

111378Now when you love for all you’re loving everything about your life. Your family, your friends, your accomplishments, your favorite TV show, etc. But just like being in love you will go through the shapes of emotions and some day you may hate those things. Love isn’t something you just say and go on about your day. Say it to yourself one evening while sipping on your favorite beverage and watch how it just rolls out of your tongue and the feeling you get when you say it. Everyone wants to be loved, and be in love as well. The point is, there are going to be days where you want to give up and sadly throw it all away.

But you should never take advantage of the power of love because love is a part of life. I don’t know maybe one day you decide to give up because your ego got in the way or you’ve fallen in love with someone else. Or sadly maybe the other half fell out of love with you — hey it happens. You just have to continue living life and loving all around you because without love you may be lost. Remember this saying by Alfred Lord Tennyson:

Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
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Fatal Attraction

When your love nest becomes unsafe.   What a wonderful life.  You’ve finally met Mr. Wright.  He showers you with love and affection.  He hangs on your every word.  You can’t believe this man is real and what did you do to deserve such a prize.  If it’s a dream, you don’t want to wake up.  Life is too perfect but then one day, things change.  Your cell phone is ringing off the hook.  He’s calling every 15 minutes to check on you.  You pick up the phone:  Tim what’s wrong?  Tim Replies:  I’ve been trying to reach you all day.  Where have you been?  I was worried.  Jade’s response:  Don’t you remember, I told you I was going on an outing with some friends and that I’d be gone all day.  Tim’s response:  I’m sorry, I forgot?  Will you forgive me?  Jade’s response:  It’s ok.  Maybe I did forget to tell you.  Anyway, I’ll call you when I get home.  Tim:  ok…It’s 9:00 pm and Jade finally makes it home.  It’s late and she’s tired she just wants to get a hot shower and go to bed.  She’s gets to the door and puts in her key to unlock the door, all of a sudden out of nowhere, Boo, it was Tim.  Jade:  My god Tim, you scared me.  What the hell are you doing out here in the bushes this time of night.  Tim’s response:  It’s late and you weren’t home so I thought I’d better come by and check on you.  Observation:  Jade doesn’t know it but she’s just experienced her first fatal attraction.  Tim is obsessed with knowing where she is 24 hours a day. There’s no room for her to breath and unless she puts a stop to it now, it could end in devastation.  It doesn’t matter how much she loves Tim, if he cannot trust her, there won’t be a relationship.

A fatal attraction can be deadly if you can’t spot the signs.  Margo and Robert were in love.  They had 3 beautiful children, a beautiful home, everything that a young family should have in the American Dream.  Robert was extremely jealous which we didn’t know until it was too late.  Margo was very attractive and more so now since she had had the famous weight loss surgery.  When she was 80 lbs. overweight, Robert didn’t have to worry.  She had no desire to go anywhere or do anything except take care of her family.  But when she lost weight, she started taking care of herself, she became a fashion model, and she was gorgeous.  Robert hated it, he said he wanted her back the way she was.  They were happy then.  Margo did not agree and she could not accept what he had become so she left.  This was a good thing, if only she had stayed gone.  I’ll never forget the day it happened, Margo had asked if she could stay with me a few days until she could get a place of her own and of course, I said sure.  Somehow Robert found out where she was staying and he started calling every day.  Sending over flowers, candy, doing everything he could to romance her.  I knew something was wrong, I could feel it.  I tried my best to keep her occupied and to remind her what type of man he had become and how it was just a game to get her to come back home.  She wouldn’t listen.  I’ll never forget her words, “he loves me, he’s changed, he’s willing to accept the way I am, and we’re going to work it out”.  Ok, I said, if that’s what makes you happy then go.  She was so excited, I watched her get into a cab and drive away.  Two days later, I don’t know what it was but I had a funny feeling in my stomach when I woke up.  The air outside felt really stale.  A few minutes later a friend was knocking at my door.  P, it’s Margo, I said what?  Margo is dead, he replied.  Dead, what happened?  Robert shot her and then turned the gun on himself.  The kids saw everything.  Social Service picked them up.  I couldn’t believe it.  She’s gone.

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Love on a 3 Way Street

Is your mate cheating?  There are sure ways to find out.  Some of us just don’t want to know because we’ve worked so hard to have a relationship and the thought of someone breaking that up is over whelming.  We try our best to believe in each other, to trust one another.  But sometimes, trust is not enough.  Which brings me to the story of Marc and Ellen.  Marc and Ellen are very close friends of mine.  I’ve known them both for over 20 years.  They seemed like the perfect couple if there is such a thing but Ellen has been acting a bit strange lately and I really couldn’t figure out why.  I try to stay out of folks business but you know me, a secret is not a secret unless you can tell somebody so here I go again.
Marc and Ellen have never had kids which I’m glad because some people were not meant to be parents.   Anyway, like I said, I’ve known this couple for a few years but I’ve noticed another women has been hanging around with them.  Now I don’t know this other woman and I do not have a clue where this women came from but I do know every time I pop in to see Ellen, she’s there.  No matter what time of day I go by, she’s there.  Finally Ellen told me who she was.  Her name is Julia and she came from Canada.  Now, here’s the weird part, she not related to either of them, she’s just a friend.  So I said to Ellen, how did you meet this Julia, and she replied, she came through the mail.  Through the mail, I asked, you mean like a special delivery and I started to laugh.  I could tell by the look in Ellen’s eyes that she was serious so I grabbed my composure and asked the question again.  So, tell me about this mail order thing.  Julia is a mail order mate, she replied.  I was stunned from shock so I asked, what the hell are you talking about?  What is a mail order mate, I asked again.  Well, she replied, Marc brought her into our relationship to strengthen our marriage.  To do what, I asked, are you crazy?  No, as a matter of fact, I’m not, she replied. We do everything together.  We live together, we love together, work together, everything together.  Oh ok, I see.  My marriage has never been stronger, replied Ellen.  Marc comes home every night now, we spend time together, and we even go to bed together.  Everything is out in the open now and I don’t have to worry if he’s cheating on me.  We don’t have any secrets between us.

I have to tell you, I was shocked.  I never dreamed in a million years, one of my dearest friends was living a perverse life.  She seemed to be happy.  I don’t know if I could handle this type of situation but to my friend Ellen, whatever Trips your Trigger!  What do you guys think?  Could you share your mate with someone else knowingly?  How far would you go?  Your comments are welcome.  We’d love to hear from you.

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