Love and Marriage – Get the Marriage Help You Need by Seeing the Big Picture

Single red rose flowerWe want things. We don’t want to wait. We want it all now.

This short article is about making a marriage or committed relationship work over the long haul, and shows you how to satisfy the relationship needs of the moment.

Recently someone told me he wanted “the world’s greatest marriage . . . right now!”

I told the young man he couldn’t possibly have the world’s greatest relationship right now, but he could develop a world-class relationship in time . . . if he and his spouse were willing to make the effort.

Yes, you can have fast food any time you want — just drive to your local Wendy’s or KFC and fork over a little cash. What you’ll get is no gourmet meal, but it may taste okay.

It’s the same with relationships. They can be pretty darn exciting in the early days of infatuation, and work pretty well . . .but only after many years can they reach their zenith.

1. It takes time for two people to get to know each other really, really well.

2. It takes time to learn how to conduct a relationship well.

3. It takes time for each partner to grow and mature, for each to become his or her best.

4. It takes time for a couple to overcome certain problems or barriers they may face… barriers that stand in the way of relationship success.

Only in time can we develop staunch wisdom and great inner strength . . . the wisdom and strength needed for us to see the big picture in our relationships. And to find the marriage help we need within ourselves. In many cases, this maturation process takes decades!

Yes, we lose our youthful beauty . . . in time. Yes, we all grow old. Yet marriage can get better and better each and every year if we keep our focus and stay in it for the long haul.

DesiremeHow To Make Your Marriage Last

The young, sexy body our culture prizes is not a person. It’s merely a fleeting phase of life. That’s why we should never marry for looks alone.

It is far smarter to marry a wonderful person, the person inside, not an appearance, which will only fade. So begin by making a good choice for a mate. Marry a real person, one you admire on the inside.

Someone who will only get better with time. Someone who will still be funny, interesting and profound when he or she is 90!

A beautiful person will always be beautiful. No matter what happens on the outside. It’s the inside that matters. Oh, he or she may retain their outer beauty for a long time, but it’s the inner beauty that really counts . . . and makes you happy.

Living with a strong, happy, caring individual who loves life and is always improving himself/herself is the only way to go! Put two such individuals together and you have a relationship with excellent potential.

How To Improve Your Marriage: Where To Start

Start with a vision. Your vision must take in the long-term aspects of your relationship. Try to see the marriage for what it can be in ten, twenty or fifty years! That’s not easy when you’re only beginning. But you can do it.

Talk about your long-term goals and plans for your relationship. Share your dreams. What are the likenesses and differences? Are your goals, hopes and dreams compatible? Be honest with yourselves and each other. Think! Don’t jump into a relationship with the first pretty person who comes along. Remember, that skin is not who the person really is.

Also, realize the path to relationship success and marital bliss is paved with mundane bricks. It’s the effort you make in the here-and-now that gets you to the promised land. Every day can’t be equally exciting and romantic. Every year won’t be the same. Your relationship will go through phases, good and hard times. There will be challenges (thank goodness, since it’s partly the challenges that makes us strong).

But you can get through it all and get some of the marriage help you need if you remember to keep your vision before you, if you can keep seeing the big picture. Remember that great marriages are always works in progress . . . works that require great spans of time, diligence and more patience than anyone wants.

Make Personal Sacrifices

Spouses who make personal sacrifices for the relationship will succeed. Sometimes you have to give up things for the good of the marriage. Your immediate wishes or needs may have to go, as you invest your time in sharing, saving, listening and compromising. Many marital problems can be solved when we remember to make sacrifices.

Example

One spouse may want to play in a softball league, but the hours of practice and long days spent in travel and tournament play are too draining. A better choice may be to spend that time with the young children and recreating as a family.

It’s a decision that will build love and romance, and strengthen the marriage and the family.

If you are focused on the moment only, and your present desire, you will shortchange the relationship. But if you remember to see the relationship as a long-term commitment, a work-in-progress, one that will take time to confer the greatest benefit, you will put the marriage first . . .and greatly enhance your marriage.

Decision Making Tip

Here’s a cool tip for making good decisions about your relationship: when trying to decide anything, always ask what eventual impact the decision will have on the long-term success of the marriage.

Another way to go about it is this . . . try being clear about three things:

1. How will your decision impact your partner?

2. How will it impact yourself?

3. How will it affect your relationship, both in the present and future?

When it comes to relationships, those daily, mundane decisions and acts of love are the stepping stones to the greatest happiness, and the loftiest paradise. They will help you to overcome many marriage problems. No, the mundane bricks may not always seem glamorous, exciting or trendy, but that’s okay. They form a solid path to marital bliss and success. If you sign up for the long haul, and persist in seeing the big picture . . . your relationship will succeed!

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Marriage Relationship Advice

I have a few marriage relationship advice tips for you. It seems that when we first fall in love with someone it feels like the love will last forever, and we get married with the idea that love and the chemistry will keep us together noDesireme matter what.  It’s funny how, as we grow older our relationships change but we don’t want to change with our relationships. We start to take things for granted and we stop caring.  Once we stop caring, the relationship starts to fade and then the party’s over.  We have to start to think long-term instead of day by day.  When you find your partner, you have to know in your heart and say to yourself that this one is going to be the last one for the rest of your life.  Treat that relationship with the respect that its going to be around long term and it will last.
Today when about half of all marriages end in divorce, it’s clear that just the love and chemistry alone does not work. So it pays to know more before we get married. But if you’re already married, then what? Well here’s some marriage relationship advice that can help before marriage or after that will keep couples together.

My first marriage relationship advice tip would be –

As time passes in a relationship or marriage couples tend to fall into a routine. Doing the same things, going to the same places. Ask your partner out on a date. Do something new and special together. Try going to the zoo, beach, aquarium or a carnival.

On a date you can get dressed up and look your  best, you’ll have more time alone to communicate and be drawn closer together. A date can help bring a dull or stale relationship out of a rut and bring some life back into it.

Another marriage relationship advice tip would be to ask some things about your partner. Do they want kids? Do they want a career? Do they go to church? And much more. You would be surprised how many couples fail to ask about the most simple of topics before they get married. Then after marriage, they still don’t ask the most important questions.

One of the biggest factors in most couples getting a divorce is they fail to ask one another the right questions. If you fail to sit down with your partner and ask them about your future, sex, religion, finances, and many others you’re going to wind up in nothing but argument after argument.

So my marriage relationship advice is to really get to know each other really well. And never let a day pass without a compliment or praise for your partner. Tell them how wonderful they are. Love and romance them and they will return the favor. It is much easier to love if you are loved.
Constantly support your spouse. Cheer for them, don’t boo them or give them the silent treatment.

In the end as a couple you both need to make it your number 1 priority to get to know each other inside and out before you end in a broken relationship.  And that all I have to say about that.  Be true to yourself.  Happiness is waiting for you.

 

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Get AMP – Volume 2 …Love is the Question? I’ve Got The Answer

Let’s Get AMP – Volume 2…Love is the Question?  I’ve Got the Answer

Today is a good day, love is all around us and the question is:510105

Do men really cheat on their spouses more than women do, or do they just get caught more often?

Answer:

Historically, men have reported being unfaithful twice often as women, according to Robin Milhausen, Ph.D., professor of family relations at the University of Gouelph in Ontario. “But today, the genders are almost equally unfaithful—23% for men and 19% for women.”  The reasons for infidelity differ, though.  For a woman, it’s sexual incompatibility that makes her more likely to cheat.  Men who are easily aroused-meaning they’re more responsive than most to attractive women-are more likely to stray.

Question:

My husband hides porn under the mattress on his side of the bed.  I found it and some of it is really distasteful.  Should I confront him with it or should I just put it out of my mind?  C. Mandrake, Los Angeles

Answer:

First of all, what were you doing snooping around under your man’s mattress anyway? What were you looking for?  It sounds like you need to check yourself before it’s too late.  He may be trying to tell you something.  Maybe you need a little excitement in your love life.  Have you ever considered role playing?  Think about it before you attack him with something you weren’t supposed to know about anyway.  If you trust him, don’t let a silly thing like porn destroy your relationship, it’s just a magazine.  And if you feel that strong about it, get involved.  I have a few ideas and I just happen to have a few naughty items in stock that I’m sure could add to your role playing.  So by all means, email me at scottlnk@aol.com and let’s get this party started ok.

Question:

My husband has no problem buying what he wants, but he gets upset when I splurge.  Why?      J. Anderson, Memphis, TN

Answer:

It’s nearly impossible to keep things 50-50, but if there’s extra spending money, you should both be entitled to it.  Figure out why your man is playing power games.  Does he feel your splurges are too expensive or impractical or think he should be the only one spending?  Discuss your finances and determine together how much money each of you have for discretionary spending.  It might help to set a limit, like $200, for how much either of you can spend without running it by the other.  But by all means, don’t keep secrets.  You are an item.  Your money is his money and his money is your money.  So if you can remember that, you’ll never have to worry.

Question:

My boyfriend and I are engaged and are planning to marry in the fall.  I love him with all my heart but he has hinted to me that he would like to swap with our next door neighbors.  Addie and Carl have been our friends for over 3 years and we do everything together.  Addie is very attractive and very loose.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t judge.  She does what she wants as long as she stays in her own space and does not cross into mine.  I came home one day and Addie was asleep in my guest bedroom.  Apparently, she and Carl had had a fight.  I didn’t think anything about it at the time but now I don’t know.  Bobby has started to hint more and more that we should try this because it could help our relationship and theirs.  I don’t know Ms. P, I thought what we had was sacred and I don’t want to share my man.  What should I do? S. Bloomsdale, Atlanta, GA

Answer:

Well Sandra, it sounds like it may have already started without you.  I mean you came home and she was in your bed, which should have been your first clue.  She lives only 2 doors down from you, why didn’t she just go home.  And now Bobby all of a sudden wants to swap, what’s that all about?  You need to put an end to this nonsense and put an end to it now, if you value your relationship.  If you let this happen, you may not recoup from it.  So please think about it before it’s too late.  I’m not trying to tell you what to do but get that notion out of his head so you can get back to planning your wedding.  And thats all I have to say about that…

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Secondhand Health Hazards

111417Just being in close proximity to these four unhealthy habits can make you sick. Here’s, what to watch out for-and how to protect yourself. By now, you know to avoid a roommate who smokes lest her carcinogenic cloud take you down. But you might not know how to avoid shacking up with a snorer. Here’s why you should think twice: Recent research shows that a slew of health problems and their side effects can be transferred from one person to another, according to the International Journal of Behavioral Nutrition and Physical Activity-meaning that friends’ or relatives’ medical issues, or their disregard for their own well-being, can rub off on you!

Below I’ve listed a few of the ways surprising unhealthy behaviors can spread:

Stress
If you have a coworker with a bad case of desk rage, you might unknowingly pick up and internalize – her tension, says Benjamin Karney, PhD, a professor of social psychology at UCLA. The same goes for a partner who off loads his stress. When that happens, says Karney, you may not have the emotional resources to help, and you could end up just irritating each other and increasing both of your stress levels.” Research shows that transmitted stress makes for less-satisfying relationships, but more important, it can lead to spikes in blood pressure and heart rate, says TraceyA. Revenson, Ph.D., a psychology professor” at the Graduate Center of the City University of New York. Catching a case of chronic stress can put you at risk for insomnia, muscle tension, and eventually cardiac illness.

Snoring
Your body needs a full night’s rest to mend damaged cells, consolidate memories, and recharge the immune system, says James Wyatt, Ph.D., Director of the Sleep Disorders Service and Research Center of Rush University Medical Center in Chicago. And it’s hard to get that when your man is sawing more logs than a lumberjack. One-quarter people who a bed with a snorer lose 49 minutes of sleep per night, on average-and alarmingly, just one night’s sleep can have a detrimental effect, says Wyatt. The irritability, headaches, and impaired coordination could put you at risk for accidents (including ones that go beyond clumsy toe stubs, such as falling asleep at the wheel).

Weight Gain

You’ve heard of love chub, but chum chub might be much worse for you. While having an obese husband ups your own risk for obesity by 37 percent, having a hefty friend increases your chances of tipping the scale by 57 percent, according to a study in the New England Journal of Medicine. Basically, people tend to eat how and what their friends eat, says study coauthor James Fowlet, Ph.D., of the University of California at San Diego. “Our social networks help us develop our ideas about what body sizes and eating behaviors are appropriate,” he explains. Which doesn’t mean you should give your heavier friends the heave-ho. Not only are there important benefits to maintaining strong friendships (studies show supportive relationships can add years to your life), but you can also help each other get back on track. Try starting a healthy-weight buddy system by swapping recipe ideas and pairing up for workouts.

Depression

You’ve probably heard the commercial: Depression hurts. But now it’s known that the pain extends beyond the person wrestling with the condition. Being in a relationship with a depressed person can make you at least 25 percent more likely to also become depressed, says clinical psychologist Michael Yapko, Ph.D. author of Depression Is Contagious.

“Women tend to feel more responsible than men and think, if I were a better partner, he’d be happier,” says Yapko, and such self-criticism can lead to headaches, stress and anxiety. What’s more, depressed men may become irritable or try to cope by resorting to substance abuse or infidelity-all of which can wreak havoc on your own well-being, say Andrea K. Wittenborn, Ph.D., an assistant professor of human development at Virginia Tech.

Couples’ cognitive behavioral therapy, in which partners talk through their problematic behavior and learn skills to help reduce obsessions and compulsions, might be effective at treating both OCD and its secondhand health effects. If your partner refuses to get help, you still should be sure to seek out a support group or therapist for yourself, says Dr. Szymanski. The goal is to come up with coping strategies and ways to clearly show your man that it’s not him, but his disorder, that you’re fighting. And that’s all I have to say about that. So tell us, how you feel. What health hazards do you see in your relationship? We’d love to hear your comments.

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Fatal Attraction

When your love nest becomes unsafe.   What a wonderful life.  You’ve finally met Mr. Wright.  He showers you with love and affection.  He hangs on your every word.  You can’t believe this man is real and what did you do to deserve such a prize.  If it’s a dream, you don’t want to wake up.  Life is too perfect but then one day, things change.  Your cell phone is ringing off the hook.  He’s calling every 15 minutes to check on you.  You pick up the phone:  Tim what’s wrong?  Tim Replies:  I’ve been trying to reach you all day.  Where have you been?  I was worried.  Jade’s response:  Don’t you remember, I told you I was going on an outing with some friends and that I’d be gone all day.  Tim’s response:  I’m sorry, I forgot?  Will you forgive me?  Jade’s response:  It’s ok.  Maybe I did forget to tell you.  Anyway, I’ll call you when I get home.  Tim:  ok…It’s 9:00 pm and Jade finally makes it home.  It’s late and she’s tired she just wants to get a hot shower and go to bed.  She’s gets to the door and puts in her key to unlock the door, all of a sudden out of nowhere, Boo, it was Tim.  Jade:  My god Tim, you scared me.  What the hell are you doing out here in the bushes this time of night.  Tim’s response:  It’s late and you weren’t home so I thought I’d better come by and check on you.  Observation:  Jade doesn’t know it but she’s just experienced her first fatal attraction.  Tim is obsessed with knowing where she is 24 hours a day. There’s no room for her to breath and unless she puts a stop to it now, it could end in devastation.  It doesn’t matter how much she loves Tim, if he cannot trust her, there won’t be a relationship.

A fatal attraction can be deadly if you can’t spot the signs.  Margo and Robert were in love.  They had 3 beautiful children, a beautiful home, everything that a young family should have in the American Dream.  Robert was extremely jealous which we didn’t know until it was too late.  Margo was very attractive and more so now since she had had the famous weight loss surgery.  When she was 80 lbs. overweight, Robert didn’t have to worry.  She had no desire to go anywhere or do anything except take care of her family.  But when she lost weight, she started taking care of herself, she became a fashion model, and she was gorgeous.  Robert hated it, he said he wanted her back the way she was.  They were happy then.  Margo did not agree and she could not accept what he had become so she left.  This was a good thing, if only she had stayed gone.  I’ll never forget the day it happened, Margo had asked if she could stay with me a few days until she could get a place of her own and of course, I said sure.  Somehow Robert found out where she was staying and he started calling every day.  Sending over flowers, candy, doing everything he could to romance her.  I knew something was wrong, I could feel it.  I tried my best to keep her occupied and to remind her what type of man he had become and how it was just a game to get her to come back home.  She wouldn’t listen.  I’ll never forget her words, “he loves me, he’s changed, he’s willing to accept the way I am, and we’re going to work it out”.  Ok, I said, if that’s what makes you happy then go.  She was so excited, I watched her get into a cab and drive away.  Two days later, I don’t know what it was but I had a funny feeling in my stomach when I woke up.  The air outside felt really stale.  A few minutes later a friend was knocking at my door.  P, it’s Margo, I said what?  Margo is dead, he replied.  Dead, what happened?  Robert shot her and then turned the gun on himself.  The kids saw everything.  Social Service picked them up.  I couldn’t believe it.  She’s gone.

A fatal attraction can be deadly if you can’t spot the signs.  Do you know someone who’s in a fatal attraction?  Share your comments with us.  We want to hear from you.  You might just save a life.   Keep Blogging, until the next time.  Scotts Link!

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My Best Friend Stole My Man

My Best Friend Stole My Man

What do you do?  Amy and I grew up together and she was like a sister to me.  We shared everything when we were kids but I never dreamed I have to share my man as well.  But it happened, and my heart is broken.  What did I do wrong?  How could I have been so blind?  I know none of you know me out there but I wanted to share my story with the hope that I could help someone else who needs a wakeup call before it’s too late.  I’ve listed some of the signs to look for so arm yourself and be ready to battle.

1.        Your man said he was at work all day but comes home smelling like he just got out of the shower.  What do you do?  First of all, what type of work does he do?  Pay close attention to his demeanor when he walks through the door.  No one smells that fresh after a hard day’s work.

2.       Every time the phone rings, he rushes to pick it up.  Why doesn’t he want you to pick up the phone?  Is he expecting someone to call?  Pay close attention and carry the phone around with you if you have too.  The bitch on the other end is bound to slip and you’ll be there when she does.

3.       He has to go to the store around the same time every night.  He runs out of cigarettes, beer, or something and he has to have it right away.  He always seems to take the long way around to the store because it takes him at least 2 hours to get back.  Watch the clock.  Check the time he leaves and the time he returns.  If at all possible, get in the car and follow him.  This will take some planning so don’t do it unless you’re ready to know the truth.

4.       You found a pair of panties in his car.  Is your ass that small?  Think about it.  You have a washer and dryer in your home so why would you leave panties in the car?  And don’t let him tell you that he doesn’t have a clue where they came from.  You are not stupid and don’t let him try to convince you that you are.

5.       Last but not least, watch your girlfriends you have running in and out of your home.  This is where I made my mistake.  My girlfriend sat with us at the dinner table and her and my husband were playing footsies under the table and I caught them.  Can you believe it?  There was nothing that they could say.  I caught them red handed in my home.  I threw them both out at the same time.  I learned a valuable lesson from this and I will keep this letter close by me to remind me how love can come and go if you are not careful.  I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust again but I am now armed and ready for battle.  The next time I will be prepared.

So, tell us what you think.  Do you have women friends running in and out of your home?  Keep an eye out, you’d be surprised of what you might find.  We’d love to hear your comments.  And a Thank You goes out to Libby Brown for sharing her story with us.  Until the next time, keep your blogging tight……

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Sex & Love …The New Rules

No sex until the third date?  What?
Living together before marriage….Maybe? 

The world has changed.  Thirty years ago, living together before marriage was a little taboo.  You wouldn’t dare admit to having sex before marriage.  What has the society we live in today turned into?  I’ve heard quite a few woman say, I’m not sleeping with a man until he marries me or from the words of “Beyoncé, Put a Ring on it”, you might be waiting a long time, if you’re waiting for your mate to marry you.  There was a time when it was said that shacking up is bad for a relationship.  The old why buy the cow when you can get the milk FREE has officially been put out to pasture.  According to the most recent findings from the National Center for Health Statistics, a cohabiting couple has the same chances at a happy marriage as a pair who don’t share an address before tying the knot.  “Couples just need to be honest about why they’re deciding to move in together, “says Bill Cloke, Ph.D., author of Happy Together: Creating a Lifetime of Connection, Commitment, and Intimacy. “Is it a test run to see if the relationship is a good fit, with the option to bail if it isn’t?  That’s a failing proposition from the get-go.”  Nor should you and your mate shack up to save money or because a roommate has moved out.  The grown-up way to play house:  Make an emotional commitment first.  Discuss your future together to make sure this move is a stepping stone and not some sort of temporary or circumstantial solution, says Cloke. 

A no-strings shag can never turn into something meaningful.  Mr. Tonight could very well become Mr. Right:  A recent study showed that casual sex sometimes evolves into a committed relationship.  How do you boost the odds that your fling will turn into something more serious?  Reset the pace.  Despite how intimate your first date was, resist the temptation to see him every day and sleep over every time you hang out.  “It takes time for a relationship to become real, and if you see him constantly and keep it all about sex, you create only a false sense of closeness. 

Never go to bed angry.  This I can swear by.  It’s a widely held belief that if you don’t troubleshoot a tiff immediately, the unresolved conflict will fester overnight.  There is a saying that “Penciled – in passion can be steamier than a random romp.”  The truth is, most couples don’t see eye to eye when they’re angry, so the chances of successfully resolving a dispute when you still have smoke coming out of your ears is slim.  The answer: Sleep on it, but commit to work it out in the light of day. “When you hold on to anger for a reasonable amount of time before expressing it, you have time to process your feelings and gain mastery over them.”

Don’t talk about money matters unless you’re married.  It’s no surprise that people try to avoid conversations about cash-experts say money is one of the top three hot-button issues for couples.  But it’s important to find out if you’re on the same page financially before you get hitched.  “If you are a committed couple and you don’t talk (or fight, albeit respectfully) about money issues while you’re dating, there will be a “flight “at some point-a potential splitting-up over these issues, “says Cloke. 

There’s no need to bring up your 401 (k) on the first date, but you should definitely disclose whatever financial baggage you’re bringing into the relationship before things get serious.  Whether you’re saddled with serious student loans or you’re regularly change your phone number to avoid the good folks at MasterCard, come clean – and encourage your mate to do the same.   It’s important to be honest with each other.  How you spend and save as a couple will affect not only your daily lifestyle but also the plans you’re able to make for the future. 

So what are your thoughts on this?  Send us your comments, we’d love to hear from you.  I have to ask this one question, does your mate know exactly how much money you earn?  Is it a secret?  Let us know your thoughts on the subject.  Until the next time.  I’ll be Bloggin at yea…..

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My Wants/Your Needs

What does your mate want from you? Have you ever stopped to ask yourself that one simple question, what does my mate want from me? Are we really right for each other or is there a hidden agenda that I’m not aware of. Have you ever wondered how does a relationship last for over 30 years? What is the key to an everlasting relationship? I myself wanted to know the answers to these questions so l decided to do some research. I met a lady on the bus, her name was Marian. I could tell she was somewhat stressed and seemed to be in hurry. I managed to get her to warm up to me and she started to talk. She told me she was 63 years old and had 7 children who were all grown and long gone. Now, it was her and her husband. She called him, Henry. I said to her, so Marian since you have no kids at home and you and your husband are finally alone, what Is your exciting highlite of the day. You must go out a lot since it’s just the two of you right? She looked at me with saddened eyes and said no. I have to get home and prepare dinner before he gets home because if I don’t have it ready, he’ll be angry and he won’t speak to me for a week or maybe longer. I said, a week. You mean to tell me that if you don’t have your husband’s dinner on the table when he walks in the door, he’ll punish you by not speaking to you for a whole week. I couldn’t believe it. I was dumbfounded. The nerve of him. She replied by saying, its ok, I must deserve it. He works hard and he’s a good provider so the least I can do is have his dinner on the table when he gets home. I asked Marian, do you drive? Oh my josh no, Henry doesn’t feel it’s important for me to drive. I take the bus everywhere I go. It cuts down on the expense of owning two cars. I thought to myself, why does this story sound so unreal, so I decided to dig a little deeper. So Marian, I asked, what time is dinner. It’s usually at 7:00 pm, she replied. Unless Henry has to work overtime, when in that case, he may not make it home at all. Then I’ll see him the following day. Oh, I see. I guess he calls to let you know when he’s not coming home. No, she replied. We don’t have a phone. Henry feels that it’s evil to have a telephone. If there’s a way for Satan to destroy your relationship, the telephone is at the top of the list. But suppose there’s an emergency, how would you call someone. My neighbor Lucara has a phone and she says I’m always welcome to use it. Wow! You guys really have a magnificent relationship don’t you. Marian replied, yes, we do. Henry and I’ve been married for over 47 years. I’ve never cheated on him and I’ve never even had the desire to. He’s good to me. So, I have to ask myself, it that all it takes. She spoke so highly of a man that she’s been married to for over 47 years that sounds like to me, he’s very controlling, probably has a mistress on the side and thinks of her as more of a pet than a wife. But who am I to judge. Nobody wants to be alone, but how much do we have to sacrifice to have a so called relationship.
So tell me friends, what’s your opinion on this? Would you give up yourself to have a mate? Are you so afraid of being alone that you’ll settle for anything? If you’re that lonely, how about some volunteer work, this would keep you busy. Tell us what you think.
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