Let’s Get AMP – Volume 2…Love is the Question? I’ve Got the Answer
Today is a good day, love is all around us and the question is:
Do men really cheat on their spouses more than women do, or do they just get caught more often?
Answer:
Historically, men have reported being unfaithful twice often as women, according to Robin Milhausen, Ph.D., professor of family relations at the University of Gouelph in Ontario. “But today, the genders are almost equally unfaithful—23% for men and 19% for women.” The reasons for infidelity differ, though. For a woman, it’s sexual incompatibility that makes her more likely to cheat. Men who are easily aroused-meaning they’re more responsive than most to attractive women-are more likely to stray.
Question:
My husband hides porn under the mattress on his side of the bed. I found it and some of it is really distasteful. Should I confront him with it or should I just put it out of my mind? C. Mandrake, Los Angeles
Answer:
First of all, what were you doing snooping around under your man’s mattress anyway? What were you looking for? It sounds like you need to check yourself before it’s too late. He may be trying to tell you something. Maybe you need a little excitement in your love life. Have you ever considered role playing? Think about it before you attack him with something you weren’t supposed to know about anyway. If you trust him, don’t let a silly thing like porn destroy your relationship, it’s just a magazine. And if you feel that strong about it, get involved. I have a few ideas and I just happen to have a few naughty items in stock that I’m sure could add to your role playing. So by all means, email me at scottlnk@aol.com and let’s get this party started ok.
Question:
My husband has no problem buying what he wants, but he gets upset when I splurge. Why? J. Anderson, Memphis, TN
Answer:
It’s nearly impossible to keep things 50-50, but if there’s extra spending money, you should both be entitled to it. Figure out why your man is playing power games. Does he feel your splurges are too expensive or impractical or think he should be the only one spending? Discuss your finances and determine together how much money each of you have for discretionary spending. It might help to set a limit, like $200, for how much either of you can spend without running it by the other. But by all means, don’t keep secrets. You are an item. Your money is his money and his money is your money. So if you can remember that, you’ll never have to worry.
Question:
My boyfriend and I are engaged and are planning to marry in the fall. I love him with all my heart but he has hinted to me that he would like to swap with our next door neighbors. Addie and Carl have been our friends for over 3 years and we do everything together. Addie is very attractive and very loose. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t judge. She does what she wants as long as she stays in her own space and does not cross into mine. I came home one day and Addie was asleep in my guest bedroom. Apparently, she and Carl had had a fight. I didn’t think anything about it at the time but now I don’t know. Bobby has started to hint more and more that we should try this because it could help our relationship and theirs. I don’t know Ms. P, I thought what we had was sacred and I don’t want to share my man. What should I do? S. Bloomsdale, Atlanta, GA
Answer:
Well Sandra, it sounds like it may have already started without you. I mean you came home and she was in your bed, which should have been your first clue. She lives only 2 doors down from you, why didn’t she just go home. And now Bobby all of a sudden wants to swap, what’s that all about? You need to put an end to this nonsense and put an end to it now, if you value your relationship. If you let this happen, you may not recoup from it. So please think about it before it’s too late. I’m not trying to tell you what to do but get that notion out of his head so you can get back to planning your wedding. And thats all I have to say about that…
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